February 2016 Questions / Answers



The following questions are taken from emails and are printed below exactly as I received them.  Names and contact information has been removed.  The answers are in note form (sorry for any of my grammar errors) to be studied through.  You’ll have to examine each Scripture below to see the points.  Please be mindful that there are often circumstances and details to every question that could potentially change the answer.  Rightly divide the truth (II Timothy 2:15).


1. “Does 1Cor 7:10-11 mean that if you divorce as long as you don’t remarry another person that you have an okay from the Christ for it?  Sometimes you just fall out of love or don’t have a fix to the problem in a marriage gone bad.”


Š      If you read verse 10 (I Corinthians 7:10) you have your answer: “And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband”.

Š      Divorce is not in accordance with the will of the Lord (Malachi 2:14-16 and Matthew 19:1-12).

Š      What I Corinthians 7:10-11 addresses is what is to be done if one does sin, by breaking the instruction not to depart (I John 3:4), and divorces.  They must either remain unmarried or be reconciled. 

Š      Remarriage to another is not an option (Mark 10:1-12), unless fornication was the CAUSE of the putting way (Matthew 5:31-32).


2. “Is it a sin to have sexual relations before getting married?  How do you know you’ll want her if you don’t have her before you marry her?  I am a young man looking for a wife.”


Š      Yes, it is a transgression of God’s law to have premarital sexual relations (I Corinthians 6:13-7:5 and Hebrews 13:4).

Š      Fornication (Strong’s #4202; Ļορνεία porneia) is unlawful sexual intercourse.  Thus, consider these Scriptures (I Corinthians 6:9-10, Galatians 5:19-21, and Ephesians 5:3).

Š      On top of that, have you considered that marriage is more than sex?  What if you choose a wife and she becomes ill, injured, or in some other way cannot fulfill your sexual desires?  Consider Ephesians 5:25-29.

Š      On the other hand, if you just want to be a man whore, why get married at all?  Have all of the temporary “fun” you can and then you can think about it for all eternity in Hell (Revelation 21:8).


3. “Why does a faithful Christian pray for his wife to be healed and God doesn’t answer that prayer?  Why did God allow this faithful woman to get sick?  How does this fit Jeremiah 29:11?”


Š      Consider that God is not the puppet master you are making Him out to be (Ecclesiastes 9:11).

Š      Everyone dies (Hebrews 9:27), unless Christ comes first (I Thessalonians 4:13-18). 

Š      Before you run to Scriptures such as James 5:15, consider the context (James 5:13-20).  Consider what was different then, than now (i.e. Acts 19:1-7 and I Corinthians 12:3-11).

o   Anointing with oil ties to what (Mark 6:12-13)?

o   What was the purpose of miraculous healings (Mark 16:15-20)?

o   Was what Elijah did miraculous (I Kings 17:1-18:45)?

o   Do such still occur today (I Corinthians 13:8-13; cf. James 1:25)?

o   Even in times of miracles, did God just heal all the faithful and make life easy for them (Acts 7:51-60, Acts 12:1-2, and II Corinthians 12:1-9)?

o   If the healing still works, what else (Matthew 10:8 and I Corinthians 12:3-11)?

Š      Regarding prayer, and everything else (Romans 14:23), you’d better be sure you know the Lord’s will before you pray about something (James 4:3).  You have to pray for things according to HIS will (I John 5:13-15).

Š      For more on prayer, consider these things: http://www.wordsoftruth.net/PDFGivinganAnswerTheThingsWePrayForAnswers.pdf

Š      Concerning Jeremiah 29:11…  Have you read that context?  It has NOTHING to do with us today (Jeremiah 29:1-32).  It was concerning Judah whom was taken into Babylonian captivity and the remnant that God would save thereafter.  Read the chapter.


4. “What about grudge holding?”


Š      Please consider all of this answer carefully (Acts 17:10-11).  Sometimes people have definitions of terms that change the discussion.  Grudge holding is one of those subjects that people have various definitions of.  Furthermore, subjects such as forgiveness, mercy, and repentance also often enter into this discussion.  Each of those subjects change the course of this question.

Š      Let’s start by defining the term.  In English, the word “grudge” means: “a persistent feeling of ill will or resentment resulting from a past insult or injury” (New Oxford American Dictionary).  Another dictionary: “a strong feeling of anger toward someone that lasts for a long time” (Webster).

Š       Based upon the definition of the term, if you say a grudge is always wrong you are saying the inspired elder (III John 1:1) erred (III John 1:9-10).  Are we not to follow the examples of faithful, inspired men (I Corinthians 4:16 and Philippians 3:17)?

Š      Caution here has to be applied.  If we are talking about brethren, have we tried to change them (Galatians 6:1 and James 5:19-20) or do we just hold strong feelings against them without efforts to change them (Matthew 5:23-24)? 

Š      Some who hastily run to answer this question, making blanket statements, make God a sinner (i.e. Exodus 20:5-6, Numbers 14:18, Psalms 95:8-11, Matthew 10:14-15, Romans 1:18-32, and I Peter 3:12).

Š      If one begins to play with the definition a bit and starts defining the term as being unwilling to forgive someone, that changes the subject.  Thus, with caution, we should understand Matthew 6:15 and Ephesians 4:31-32 with the qualifier of Luke 17:3-4 if this turns to discussing forgiveness.

Š      If we begin talking about letting anger dwell in us for a long time over being wronged we have another subject matter.  If we hold on to anger, we are going to act foolishly (Ecclesiastes 7:9 and James 1:19-20).  Yet, again, there is a balance to saying holding on to anger is wrong (Psalms 7:11).

Š      Be careful in running to James 5:9 in your studies.  The word translated “grudge” there is the equivalent of saying, “sighed” (Mark 7:34) or “groan” (II Corinthians 5:2).


5. “Is it wrong for a family in a congregation that gives more money than other families to have more of a say than other members?”


Š      There is so much wrong with this.  First, the “say” in a congregation belongs to the Lord (Ephesians 1:22-23, Ephesians 5:23, Colossians 1:18, and Hebrews 3:1-6).

Š      Secondly, well…  James 2:1-12 should cover the second point well enough.

Š      Thirdly, consider some of the following Scriptures as other points: Matthew 20:26-27, Romans 12:10, Romans 12:16, I Corinthians 12:14-27, Galatians 5:13, and Philippians 2:3-8


6. “Do I have to pray before eating a meal?”


Š      Yes, (Matthew 14:19-20, Matthew 15:36, Matthew 26:26-29, Luke 24:30, John 6:11, Acts 27:35, Romans 14:6, and I Timothy 4:1-5).

Š      Question, why wouldn’t everyone want to give thanks for their food (Psalms 75:1 and I Thessalonians 5:18) seeing that God is involved in how we have food (Acts 14:17)?



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