December 2014 Questions / Answers


The following questions are taken from emails and are printed below exactly as I received them.  Names and contact information has been removed.  The answers are in note form (sorry for any of my grammar errors) to be studied through.  You’ll have to examine each Scripture below to see the points.


1. “If a man is having two wives before he is converted, what happen to the wives? Can he keep them and still go to heaven?”   


Š      There is no authority, in Christ whom we live under (Matthew 28:18-20, Colossians 3:17, I John 2:3-6, and II John 1:9), for a man to have two wives.

Š      In fact, it is clearly stated that we are to have one mate (I Corinthians 7:1-5). 

Š      Thus, repentance that comes before conversion (Acts 3:19), demands that this man correct this situation (Ezekiel 33:14-16 and Acts 26:18-20).

Š      He must stop living in this adulterous situation (Proverbs 6:32-35 and Romans 7:1-3).

Š      This is not a clear situation, however.  There are other questions that could arise (i.e. what if the first wife wants to put him away for fornication – Matthew 19:3-9?)


2. “Which apostle said that Paul's teachings are difficult to understand?  Why are they?”


Š      I am guessing that you are referring to II Peter 3:15-18.

Š      The why part of your question can have many answers.  The first, and such is the case with Peter’s statement, is that some things are deeper than others in the Scriptures (Acts 8:30-35).  However, that is not always the case.

o   There are things that are hard for some to understand because they are not yet spiritually minded enough to do so (I Corinthians 3:1-3).

o   Then, there are those who just aren’t willing to listen properly (Hebrews 5:8-6:3).

o   You also have those, who not necessarily due to their own faults just aren’t ready yet to learn some things (Mark 4:33 and John 16:12).

o   Some people reject it (Hosea 4:1-6).

o   Some people just cannot get it (John 8:47).

Š      Sometimes you just really have to search to understand (John 5:39).

Š      To be clear though, none of that means you CANNOT understand the will of God (Ephesians 5:17 and II Timothy 2:7).


3. “what a horrible life to think you can shipwreck your faith and be eternally lost again. that portrays God as a cosmic killjoy that takes pleasure in casting souls into hell. Listen, and listen good! it is impossible for a christian to backslide or fall from grace. God does not fail at any task. therefore it is impossible to be saved, then lost any means. You will NEVER have any REAL joy until you realize He "chose you before the foundations of the world" and the "work he has begun in me He will perform until the day of Jesus Christ". Get over thinking you had anything to do with aqquiring or retaining anything! Read eph. 2:8-9 and let it soak in. obviously you were a slow learner in school!  name one text that says someone was saved and lost after that point - - CANT DO IT.”


Š      Faith can be “shipwreck” (I Timothy 1:19-20).

Š      God does not take pleasure in people being lost (Ezekiel 33:11).

Š      It is very possible (more than one text) for a Christian to fall away (Luke 8:13, Acts 8:12-24, I Corinthians 9:24-27, I Corinthians 10:12, Galatians 1:6-9, Galatians 3:1-3, Galatians 5:4, Galatians 5:7-9, I Timothy 4:1, Hebrews 3:12-13, Hebrews 6:4-6, Hebrews 10:26-31, II Peter 2:20-22, and Revelation 22:18-19).

Š      You’re perverting Ephesians 1:3-4 and Philippians 1:5-6.

Š      Ephesians 2:8-9 is beautiful, in context (the whole book).  However, what you have ignored, is that congregation was whom those verses you refer to were written and yet they FELL AWAY  (Revelation 2:1-7).

Š      God says, not I, that you have a part in your salvation (Acts 2:40, Philippians 2:12, I Timothy 4:16, and James 4:8).  Thus, your argument of God does not fail is baseless.  It is not God, but man who fails!!!


4. “How much seed money do I need to sow to get God to give me a better job?”


Š      The phrase “seed money” does not appear in the Scriptures.

Š      If you mean giving of financial means to God, you have to prosper BEFORE you give to Him (I Corinthians 16:1-2), not after or to cause prosperity.

Š      The idea of “seed money” is likely a doctrine of false teachers that are treating you like merchandise to have financial gains from you (II Peter 2:1-3).  You will receive nothing but bondage to sin through such false promises (II Peter 2:18-22).

Š      The work and reward of a Christian is spiritual (John 6:26-27 and Colossians 1:5).

Š      The false idea of “prosperity Christianity” through “seed money” (; is false.  The faithful are NOT promised money or ease of life in this world (Luke 9:57-62, Acts 14:22, Hebrews 10:34, and I Peter 4:12-13). 

Š      Being poor is NOT a negative or statement of one’s lacking faithfulness (Luke 6:20 and Romans 15:26), unless it’s willful (II Thessalonians 3:10).


5. “Should a woman be given a choice in marriage as to whether to not marry or to marry or should the man just tell her he is marrying like in the old testament and such?”


Š      Under the Law of Moses women were not given much of a choice in their marital lives (Deuteronomy 21:10-14 and Deuteronomy 24:1-4).

Š      God grants the woman, under the Law of Christ, the choice as to whom to marry and whether or not to marry at all (I Corinthians 7:1-9, I Corinthians 7:34-35, and I Corinthians 7:39-40).

Š      Now, in Christ, marriage is more than just a physical relationship to produce a seed (Ephesians 5:25 and I Peter 3:1-7).


6. “Do you believe it would be sinful, soul damnaning, for a teacher to quote a poem in a lesson?  Would your opinion change if that teacher used a poem by a Christian or not?”


Š      What I believe doesn’t constitute right or wrong (Jeremiah 10:23, II Corinthians 10:12-18, and Ephesians 5:10).

Š      The standard is the Scriptures (Luke 4:4, Luke 11:28, John 6:63, and II Timothy 3:15-17).

Š      We may, through approved examples (I Corinthians 11:1), quote poets or unnamed persons regardless of their standing with God (Acts 17:22-31 and Titus 1:12).

Š      As with anything, we’d have to use those poets’ words in a way that are Scripturally right (Ephesians 4:25 and Titus 2:1).


7. “I have been married 4 yrs.  My husband is 2 years younger than me and we are both young.  We are members of the church.  Mostly faithful.  We are having finances troubles because we both work but our hours are full time.  We can get by better but he has expensive hobbies.  I am pregnant and we will soon be one income.  He is getting a better job but that job still isn’t enough money for when I am off taking care of our baby.  I am trying to be the submissive wife.  He does not handle money right.  When I talk to him or my preacher about it they both remind me of my role.  Well my role is not going to buy diapers or food if he keeps spending money like he is.  We live in the south.  You know what that means about me being the woman.  What can I do and not sin but get him to be more responsible with our money?”


Š      How long you’ve been married and your ages should not affect the answer to this question.  Let the will of God be your guide in this and all matters (Proverbs 3:5-7, Proverbs 30:5-6, and I Thessalonians 5:21).

Š      I am a bit perplexed by your statements of: “We are members of the church.  Mostly faithful.”  What does that mean?  Where in the word of God do you read of Christians who are “mostly faithful” (Luke 11:23)? 

o   What if your husband came home from work and told you he had been out with another woman.  He then said: “I am married to you and have been mostly faithful to you today”?

o   You need to faithful to death without any qualifiers (Revelation 2:10).

Š      Getting yourselves FAITHFUL to God should be the first priority (Matthew 6:33).  In fact, that would help the problem you wrote about greatly as you and your husband would change your focuses (Colossians 3:1-4). 

Š      If others are telling you to be submissive, is there a chance (may not be, that is for you to answer) you are not being such?  You’ve said you’re unfaithful (that’s what “mostly faithful” is).  Examine yourself (II Corinthians 13:5) and make sure some of the problem doesn’t lie with you before you try to fix your husband (Matthew 7:1-5).

Š      Your statement: “We live in the south.  You know what that means about me being the woman” comes across like you do have an issue with being submissive.  Again, I do not know, but you need to examine this matter honestly.  God expects you to be submissive whether you live in the south or not (Ephesians 5:22-24, Ephesians 5:33, and Colossians 3:18).

Š      Your attitude of “not going to buy diapers or food if…” is scary too (Romans 12:17).  Will it be your child’s fault if your husband wastes his living?  

Š      Now to the points about money…  Sadly, this issue causes many problems in marriage.  It shouldn’t!  You and your husband should be able to enjoy the fruit of your labors (Ecclesiastes 2:24, Ecclesiastes 5:13-20, and I Timothy 6:17) while also balancing that with being responsible (Proverbs 21:20, Luke 15:11-17, and I Timothy 5:8).

Š      Here is some advice.  Ask your husband to sit down with you and study the Scriptures about how to responsibly use money.  Ask him to lead the study for such is not your role (I Timothy 2:11-12).  Ask him to explain verses such as Matthew 6:19-21 and Luke 14:28-30.  Discuss the verses given above.  However, remember, get your life right first and don’t expect credibility until you do so! 




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