“In 2007, 7% of high school students reported that they first had sex before age 13” (www.
thenationalcampaign.org). “In 2005, the serious violent crime offending rate was 17 crimes per
1,000 juveniles ages 12–17, totaling 437,000 such crimes involving juveniles... The proportion
of youth neither enrolled in school nor working has been on a downward trend, and most of the
decline has occurred among females. In 1991, 13 percent of young females were neither in
school nor working; by 2006, this proportion had decreased to 8 percent” (www.childstats.gov).
The above statistics are no doubt conservative. When driving past high schools in east El
Paso at lunch time you can see how loose the morals of local teenagers are. I graduated high
school in 1994 (which is not that long ago). Things were bad then, but now children have more
available ways of sharing and gaining information (cell phones, the internet, etc.).
Are they just kids being kids? That’s what so-called “parents” say to excuse their children
today. The Lord is not of that mindset. Notice what inspiration tells us: “Even a child is known
by his doings, whether his work be pure, and whether it be right” (Proverbs 20:11). Of course,
blame only exists to be shifted to others, right? If a child is failing in school the parent says it is
the teacher at fault. If a child becomes pregnant the parent says it was too much MTV. If a
child does something violent the parent says there are not enough after school programs to
keep the kids off of the streets. If a child is caught doing drugs the parent says it is the other
kids influencing their children. If a child lies about a “sleepover” to go to a party the parent
blames the other child’s parents for not knowing what their children were up to.
Blame shifting never solves any problems. To have true change there has to be
accountability. If our children misbehave, it is our faults as that child’s parents whether we like it
or not. Notice: “The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother
to shame” (Proverbs 29:15).
1-4). Who is your child “hanging out with”? If you believe the inspired word of God about
negative influences (I Corinthians 15:33), you’ll know! What is your child doing with his or her
spiritual and secular education? It is your responsibility to find out (II Timothy 3:14-15). What
are your children watching on television and listening to on their MP3 players? What text
messages are they getting (why are they getting them to begin with)? If you care about your
child’s soul, you’ll care about the information they see and hear (Proverbs 4:23-27, Proverbs 19:
27, Matthew 26:41, and Philippians 4:8). We could go on and on with applications, but I trust
you can see the point.
Parents today seem to care very little about what their children are doing and with whom
they’re doing it. As parents, we must understand that our children are a gift from the Lord
(Psalms 127:3-5). However, MANY parents today, who are the real problem, do not love their
children. Notice: “An estimated 906,000 children are victims of abuse & neglect every year. The
rate of victimization is 12.3 children per 1,000 children” (http://www.childhelp.
org/resources/learning-center/statistics). That statistic is alarming. However, we must consider
the even more serious abuses of children today which are not “reported”.
I know, children being raped, beaten, etc. is horrible. I don’t mean to sound crude, but they
can get over those things. The kind of abuse a child does not recover from is when a parent
does not bring up a child in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4). If children
were taught about the Lord, consequences for sin, rewards for righteousness, etc., our society
would be much better off. Notice how to be real parents and solve our real problem (the lack of
parenting): “And he said unto them, Set your hearts unto all the words which I testify among
you this day, which ye shall command your children to observe to do, all the words of this
law... For whom the LORD loveth he correcteth; even as a father the son in whom he
delighteth... He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him
betimes... Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying...
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it...
Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.
Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell” (Deuteronomy 32:46,
Proverbs 3:12; 13:24; 19:18; 22:6; and 23:13-14).
Biblical instruction and discipline are not the only solutions. Good parenting includes
having a loving home. I have seen “fathers” who brag about how they use the belt. However,
you never see them spend time with their children. They never show affection to their children.
There are mothers who are the Hitler’s of motherhood, but they know nothing of loving their
children (Titus 2:4). I’ve heard grown men and women tell stories about their fathers which
always included discipline, but never do they tell of any other form of a relationship with good
ole’ dad. Brethren, we must be firm in the disciplining of our children (Proverbs 22:15).
However, we must be able to do more than just swing a heavy hand (Psalms 103:13, Isaiah 66:
13, etc.). We need to be the kind of parents that really know our children and can communicate
with them. Just as we want our Heavenly Father near to us, let’s be close to our children! If we
are afar off, we are abusing them.
Tomorrow’s generation will be the result of today’s parents. Godly mothers will have the
praise of their children (Proverbs 31:28). Godly fathers will have the respect of their children
(Proverbs 29:17). Children who are not raised right only have the hope that they’ll find the truth
on their own. Some of us know personally how hard that is. Let’s equip our children to be
godly adults, for we know the majority of parents today are failing!
|Volume IX ~ Issue III ~ October 12th, 2008
|Edited by: Brian A. Yeager
|Can You Believe The Children Of Today?
By: Brian A. Yeager
|The Real Question - Can You Believe The Parents Of Today?
|The Harshest Forms Of Child Abuse