Sermon Outline By Brian A. Yeager

"That I might make thee know the certainty of the words of truth..." (Proverbs 22:21).

The Qualification Of Elders - Having Faithful Children

A Study About Elders
(Part 4)
Having Faithful Children
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I. Introduction:

A. This lesson and our next lesson are necessarily joined together as they deal with the household of a man desiring the office of a bishop. We will be talking about his faithful children today, but understand two things before we proceed.

  1. A household includes anyone under this man’s care and/or oversight and is NOT just about his children (I Timothy 5:4-8).
  2. As we proceed please keep in mind that the standard of faithful children applies to being qualified to be an elder. It DOES NOT mean a parent is lost if the children are not faithful (Deuteronomy 24:16 and Ezekiel 18:1-22).
B. Raising believing children is a difficult task and a very high standard for various reasons (II Timothy 3:1-5). Consider…
  1. Children have a God-given freewill to do right or wrong that a parent cannot prevent them from exercising (Deuteronomy 5:28-29, Luke 15:11-32, and Philippians 2:12).
  2. Good parenting is not the all powerful solution to that FACT that few will be saved (Matthew 7:13-14 and Luke 13:23-24).
  3. The world was called wicked (I John 5:19) and has NOT gotten better over time (II Timothy 3:13).
  4. The power of ungodly influences abound (I Corinthians 15:33).
  5. Thus, a father who is a proper shepherd has mastered the very difficult task of properly teaching his children to keep them from evil (Proverbs 6:20-23).

II. Body: Having Faithful Children… (Titus 1:6).

A. The word translated “faithful” in the KJV or “children that believe” (ASV 1901) means: “trustworthy; subjectively, trustful: — believe(-ing, -r), faithful(-ly), sure, true” (Strong’s # 4103).
  1. The word “faithful” is often a debated subject. Does it mean faithful to God? Does it mean faithful to the parent? That fact is, you cannot separate the two for a faithful father will teach his children to obey the Lord all of their lives (Deuteronomy 6:20-24, Proverbs 22:6, Luke 2:41-52, and II Timothy 3:15).
  2. This debated word is translated in another context meaning those who have been converted and are faithful in Christ (Ephesians 1:1).
  3. It also speaks, as translated in another context, of continued dependability as a brother (I Peter 5:12).
  4. It is life-long faithfulness (Revelation 2:10).
  5. Some just qualify this as “faithful in attendance”, but being a believer, a faithful child of God, is about one’s whole life rather than a show up and be counted principle (I Timothy 4:12).
  6. There is often a debate over whether “children” can mean one child, more than one, etc. More than one leaves no debate and thus is the route the faithful will always follow (Romans 14:23).
B. Having his children in subjection with all gravity [“venerableness, i.e. probity: — gravity, honesty. The characteristic of a thing or person which entitles to reverence and respect, dignity, majesty, sanctity, honour, purity” (Strong’s #4587)] (I Timothy 3:4).
  1. Can a man lead his children to honestly submit to him without forcing them to do so (Ephesians 6:1-4)?
  • He must be able to lead without lording over others (I Peter 5:1-3).
  • Again, has he taught his children (Proverbs 4:1-13)?
  • Has he shepherded his children rather than forcing them to obedience? Think about our chief shepherd here (I Peter 5:4; cf. Matthew 23:37).
  1. A qualified elder is a disciplinarian (Proverbs 3:12, Proverbs 13:24, and Proverbs 19:18) for he certainly will need that trait to guide the local congregation (Titus 1:12-13).
  2. Yet, he is not just a disciplinarian (Psalms 103:13).
  3. Do his children revere him (Hebrews 12:9)?
C. Children not accused of riot or unruly (Titus 1:6).
  1. Not accused or charged in the sense of not bringing reproach upon an elder of the Lord’s body (Proverbs 19:26).
  2. His children are not accused of riot [which is translated only in two other verses being tied to drinking alcohol and partying in such a state] (Ephesians 5:18 and I Peter 4:3-4).
  3. His children are not unruly [disobedient, that is not put under] (Colossians 3:20).

III. Conclusion: All Of Us Whom Are Parents Must Consider What Our Children’s Behavior Can Indicate About Us (Proverbs 28:7 and Proverbs 29:15).