An Overview Of The Old Testament

Part 155 – Answering A Matter Before Hearing Through Being Friendly (Proverbs 18:13-24)
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1. Is it good to give an answer before knowing what you’re talking about?
No: “He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him” (Proverbs 18:13).

  • Deuteronomy 13:12-15, John 7:50-51, and James 1:19.

2. Is it important to be in “good spirits”?
Yes: “The spirit of a man will sustain his infirmity; but a wounded spirit who can bear” (Proverbs 18:14)?

  • Good spirits are helpful (Proverbs 17:22).
  • A wounded spirit is destructive (Proverbs 12:25, Proverbs 15:13, Proverbs 18:14, and II Corinthians 2:7).

3. What do prudent, wise individuals seek?
Knowledge: “The heart of the prudent getteth knowledge; and the ear of the wise seeketh knowledge” (Proverbs 18:15).

  • Psalms 119:97-104, Proverbs 1:5-7, Proverbs 9:9, Proverbs 10:14, Proverbs 15:14, Proverbs 23:23, Colossians 3:10, II Timothy 3:15, and II Peter 1:3-6).

4. Could a man gain audience with great men [in a worldly sense] by bringing a gift unto them?
“A man's gift maketh room for him, and bringeth him before great men” (Proverbs 18:16).

  • Proverbs 19:6 and Proverbs 21:14.
  • Consider that, those who like gifts are not the one’s godly people want company with anyway (Proverbs 17:23 and Proverbs 29:4; cf. Proverbs 15:27).

5. Can someone appear to be just when they are out for their own cause?
Yes: “He that is first in his own cause seemeth just; but his neighbour cometh and searcheth him” (Proverbs 18:17).

  • Two examples of people who had their own cause which seemed just to them: Luke 23:1-5 and Acts 24:1-9.

6. Did the casting of lots cause contentions to cease?
“The lot causeth contentions to cease, and parteth between the mighty” (Proverbs 18:18).

  • The Lord made decisions through the casting of lots (Proverbs 16:33).
  • From land to Apostles, many decisions were made through the casting of lots (Joshua 18:6-10 and Acts 1:15-26).

7. How bad can things be when there are differences between brethren?
So bad that the resolution is harder than winning a strong city: “A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city: and their contentions are like the bars of a castle” (Proverbs 18:19).

  • Genesis 4:1-8, Genesis 27:41, Genesis 37:3-5, Psalms 50:20, and Matthew 10:21.

8. Is it true that we reap the consequences of our words?
Yes: “(20) A man's belly shall be satisfied with the fruit of his mouth; and with the increase of his lips shall he be filled. (21) Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof” (Proverbs 18:20-21).

  • Proverbs 12:13-14, Proverbs 13:2-3, and Matthew 12:34-37.

9. Is marriage a bad thing?
No: “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD” (Proverbs 18:22).

  • There are times wherein marriage is to be avoided unless necessary to keep lust from causing sin (I Corinthians 7:1-8; 25-26).
  • God ordained marriage for a reason (Genesis 2:18-24 and Ecclesiastes 9:9).

10. Can a poor man be better mannered than a wealthy man?
Yes: “The poor useth intreaties; but the rich answereth roughly” (Proverbs 18:23).

  • It is fascinating that the poor can be so mannerly, seeing they’re often despised (Proverbs 14:20, Proverbs 19:4, and Proverbs 19:7; cf. James 2:1-8).

11. Will we gain good friends by being unfriendly?
No: “A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother” (Proverbs 18:24).

  • There are good brethren that are there for times of adversity (Proverbs 17:17 and John 15:13; cf. Romans 16:1-4).